Need help for my marriage

Dear Lady,

I hear your heart for your husband, that you sincerely love him, and that will make it easier to hear what the Bible has to say. 1 Corinthians 7:10-16 says, “And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?” I find this passage of scripture very encouraging because it tells you exactly what to do in your marriage. It directs you to stay with your husband. It also encourages you that you can be a light to point your beloved husband to Jesus Christ and be an influence in his life that can possibly lead to his salvation. How encouraging!

There is one more passage of scripture that I want to share that is written to married women. 1 Peter 3:1-6 says, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.” I am still learning how to be in subjection to my husband, and just this morning I was reading about this topic. One thing that stood out in the book I was reading was that we wives are submissive to our husbands not necessarily because they deserve it, but because that is where God has placed us in the family. Our submission to our husbands is obedience to God. I encourage you to pray to God to show you how to honor, respect, and admire your husband. This passage also tells us wives that the thing that should attract our husbands the most is who we are inside and that we should have meek and quiet spirits.

Just keep loving your husband because God wants you to. I know it might be hard, but it is going to require staying connected to the Lord so that you will have the attitude that God wants you to (see John 15).

One last thing, pornography is a huge problem in the lives of church-going Americans. I know there is a lot of resources out there. I recommend you find some Christian books on the subject to direct you further regarding having a husband hooked on pornography. Please let me pray for both of you to the One who can help the most.

Dear Heavenly Father, I feel so much for this lady and I ask you to be with her in this heartbreaking situation. Give her strength and determination to honor you and her husband in spite of his actions. Lord, I pray for her husband who, like many men in America, is addicted to pornography. I pray that he would be willing to go to a Christian counselor who can direct him to your word and help him in battling this addiction. Lord, I pray that you would help him see how much his wife loves him and is committed to him and that it would help him to renew his commitment to her. I pray that as they work at their marriage and battle this problem, you would grow them closer to you and each other. I ask this knowing that you are a big God who can do big things and change hearts and lives. Please help this husband and wife to be receptive to your Holy Spirit working. In Jesus name, Amen.