Friend,
I can feel your pain and loneliness because of the chasm between you and your friend. It sounds like you really care about her and would like to understand what has gone wrong and restore your relationship. The first thing I would do is get on my knees and pray and really search my heart and ask God to show me if I have sinned or hurt my friend in any way. Secondly, if you realize you have, confess it to God and then go and ask forgiveness from your friend. If you don't believe you have, I would visit her and humbly share your heart. Let her know that you value her friendship and feel as if you are not close like you used to be. Ask her point blank if you have hurt her in some way that you are not aware of so you can ask forgiveness. Third, realize that you cannot control other people, only yourself. She may not be willing to be honest or to restore the relationship, but you can still choose to have a loving, godly attitude no matter what her response. John emphasized over and over in the book of 1st John that God calls us believers in Jesus to love one another (1 John 4:11). Last, take comfort in the fact that although people will disappoint you, leave you, and hurt you, God never will. Romans 8:35-39 says, "Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
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Dear Abandoned,
Do not think for a moment you are
abandoned if you are a child of God. He promises he will never
leave nor forsake you, but that
doesn't mean others will not!
In life we have many roads and as
we travel each one, we will meet
different people as they cross our
paths. That doesn't mean they will
not carry on their separate way.
Your friend may not be aware of the
hurt she is causing you and is
only interested in doing "her thing".
My advice is if you were as close
as you say you were, I would approach her again just to make
sure.
If the result is the same, then
it is time to let go and meet another on your path. God sends
us many people to make friends with
in life. Some bring the best out
in us and some bring out the worst.
You need to pray that God will
continue to bring you friends that
will edify you and vice versa.
Make a friend for a season and then
if it doesn't work out, you had the
pleasure of sharing their friendship for a short time.
God Bless,
Sandy
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